Jon Gosslin Engaged? Let’s read him the Riot Act!

I certainly hope that Jon Gosslin is not engaged to his 22 year old mistress!  Jon, I have been on your side for a long time, but if you are doing something stupid, I could switch side quickly.  

 It is rumored that Jon Gosslin presented his 22 year old girlfriend with an engagement ring (skull and crossbones with four black diamonds-how Junior High- with a huge price tag of $180,000) which he could have gotten the cheaper version from the gumball machine at the pizza parlor. 

 Jon continues to state that he is concerned for his children.  If this is so, then why create so much more muck  for your children deal with by acting like an 8^th grader who just discovering his hormones.  The ink is barely dry on the papers filed for divorce and Jon is thinking about getting married again.  How do you think the kids will swallow the news that dad not only cheated on mom, but he is going to make the mistress the step mother soon.  Do you think the public is ready for Jon and Kate Plus Nine?  My harse words towards Kate are beginning to soften.  Can you really be this immature Jon?

 The tabloids have replaced the headlines with the Michael Jackson saga.  Thank goodness.  Jon and Kate need to go into hiding for a while and pull themselves together, stop spouting empty, meaningless professions of their commitment to their kids and start acting like parents.

 Jon, I know you are really ticked at Kate, but the grass always needs to be mowed.  Do you think the grass on the other side of the fence doesn’t need to be tended?  It is easy to be in love when you don’t need to pay the bills, take care of the kids and still find time for your partner.  

 You and Kate could work this out.  The spine you’ve apparently grown over the last couple of months was the spine Kate was looking for during your marriage. (less the spiteful jerk you’ve become.)  She wanted you to be a man and take an active role in caring for your children.  If you think your girlfriend is going to step up and take care of your eight children while you sit on the sidelines, think again.  She might do it for a while…until she ropes you in…and then she is going to tire of it quickly.  

 You can’t become single again Jon.  You have eight children to support and who need your love and attention. We all want to leave our responsibilities behind at sometime or another.  Dream on!  It just doesn’t happen.  You made choices and you have to be a father to the children you have produced.  

 Here is a novel thought.  Your 22 year old girlfriend is going to want children.  Have you thought about that Jon?  In a few years you will add a few more children to this brewed.  So, instead of eight children, you will have nine or ten.  No responsibility there!

 As a relationship coach, I wish I could have one hour with the Gosslins.  I would like to shake some sense into both of them.  Marriage should not be so easily discarded, especially when there are eight children impacted.

 Jeannine Kaiser

Relationship and Dating Expert

Internet Dating Scam

Internet Dating Scam 

There are con-artists everywhere and the world of internet dating is no different.  You have to be alert to avoid being taken advantage of by one of the savvy characters.   One of my clients received a response from a man on the internet that was targeting her and her money.  She was astute enough to contact me to get my opinion.  This same scam is happening to men, too.  Often the scam is a man pretending to be a woman when they target men.  

 The man contacted her from another state (first clue) and told her how much he liked her profile.  He told her that he was looking for that one special someone and not to worry about the distance because they could work it out if they were a match (Clue 2: He can build a relationship with her through email and not see her because of the distance.).  

 Next he gave her the sob story about how his wife passed away in a car accident.  He gave lots of details (Clue 3, liars elaborate a lot).  

He used verbiage that is indicates that he is foreign and gives too much detail that he is American! (Clue 4: If you are American born, you don’t elaborate about being born here.)

 I’m in search of my Soul & Dream Mate, Lover, Wife and Life Companion. Let me give you a brief introduction of me. .My name is Carl Nelson White/Caucasian. I’m an American Born Irish, but my mom is a Hispanic American born. .I’m an Electrical Engineer employment with a Master Degree.

 Next, he is indiscriminate about how old you are.  (Clue 5) In the two examples we found, one man was 40 and seeking women from 35-75 years old and the other was 63 seeking women 60-90 years old.  There is something very wrong with this picture.

 He tries to move her immediately to his private email account.  (Clue 6) By doing so, he removes the double bind protection of the website and often people use their names in their email addresses.  He can now do research to see if she is a good target for his game.  He will begin to write lengthy emails that will move quickly to him telling her that he is falling for her.

 Clue 7 is how he signs the email: Lots of love!  He doesn’t even know her but he is already using the “L” word.  

 These people prey on lonely people (both men and women).  They look for someone who has been recently divorced, widowed or never married.  They want someone who is lonely and has money.  They will bait you into a intimate email relationship, profess their love for you and how they want to be with you.  Then, you guessed it, they will ask for money. 

 Please be aware of scams.  You need to look for clues.  If something does not add up, listen to your instincts.  If you don’t you could get caught in one of these scams.

 One of the most important things men and women need to attract the right person is a healthy self-esteem and the knowledge that they don’t need a partner to be complete.  Having a partner is a wonderful bonus to your life.  

Jeannine and Keith Kaiser